Tips To Avoid Drama In The Dressing Room
I thought that shopping for my prom dress was a stressful experience, but I can't even begin to imagine what kind of stress comes with shopping for your wedding gown. My mother had her opinions, I had mine, I also had a vision of exactly what I was looking for, and plenty of body insecurity to go along with it. Let me just be blatantly honest with you, when you're shopping for a wedding dress everyone is going to have an opinion. People have an idea of what they thought you would look like on your wedding day. People also have dreams of what they hope they will look like on their wedding day. What's really important is focusing on what you're looking for, and making sure that everyone around you understands what it is you're looking for. Here is my advice for friends, family, and of course, the bride when trying on wedding gowns.
Family and Friends
Get an idea of her vision. Sit down with your bride and look at photos of what she's looking for. Help her do the research, help her find gowns that she loves, mark pages in magazines and send her pins from pint rest. Knowing your bride's vision will help you help her find a gown she loves when she's shopping.
Gush. Avoid negative reactions. Sometimes it's more about what you don't say than what you do say. If you really love something, gush over it! If you don't, avoid negative comments. Your bride is going to notice if you aren't squealing over how perfect a dress is for her. That says enough without you having to say anything. It all goes back to that to that saying, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." If your bride comes out looking incredibly excited and you don't love the dress on her, remember that this is her wedding and that your role is to love and support her.
Remind her she looks beautiful. Forget the dress for a minute. Let's just talk about her. Trying on jeans is a stressful enough experience let alone trying on wedding gowns. We all have our moments of self confidence and the dressing room is one place where those feelings can come full surface in an instant. Remind your bride before she even gets into a gown that she looks beautiful, something as simple as greeting her and saying, "you look cute today!" is already going to put her in a brighter mindset before she tries on gowns.
Be Active. During her appointment it's so helpful to take photos for your bride as well as jot down any small changes you may have wanted to make in gowns that your bride tries on, keep a small notebook and write down what she loved and didn't love about some gowns so you can remind her as you continue dress shopping.
Talk to your friends and family. If you are concerned about how someone is going to behave when you try on gowns, make sure you talk to them in an open, honest and polite way. Let them know what your concerns are and be passionate, excited, and firm when describing the type of gown and appointment you're hoping for.
Share. Show your friends and family gowns you love! Let them be part of the hunt online. Making a pin board and inviting your loved ones to pin to it is a great way to let them know what you love, what inspires you, and to get them included in a harmless way. If your loved ones have an idea of what you want going in, they're less likely to have strong opinions going in.
Fit can be adjusted. If something needs to be taken in or let out, try to focus less on that and more on the actual style of the dress and how you look in it. Fit can be fixed. Just worry about how much you love the dress and how you feel in it.
Relax. When the actual day rolls around no one is going to be judging you by the fit of your dress or what your body looks like in it. Everyone is going to be looking at you. The real star of a wedding is not the dress, the cake, the flowers or even the bride herself, the real star of a wedding is the relationship and the journey that was made to get to that day. Enjoy every part of the process to getting there and remember to take care of yourself and each other along the way.